My husband and I have been married for just over six years. We met at Bible college, fell in friendship then fell in love a long the way, and choose daily to stay in love. We’ve always wanted children, but because of my medical condition, PCOS, we’ve not been able to.
(It’s quite literally “inconceivable!” to all my Princess Bride fans out there! (Yes, I’m making light of a serious topic and I’m ok with it!))
Oh sure, we have our good and bad days. Even, really, our good and bad years. Recently, within the past few years, we’ve decided to look at our childlessness in a different light.
We of course see our infertility as a burden, and I’m sure those who are like us feel that this is a never-ending grief that will never leave you. We haven’t really been able to help anyone so far with the experiences we’ve gone through, other than opening the door for conversation on this taboo subject.
A few years ago, I saw this article (I don’t even know who wrote it or what site it was, so don’t ask!) about using singleness as a gift. There are plenty of places in Scripture that talk about gifts that we can use to benefit others and glorify God.
Romans 12:6-8 NLT
In his grace, God has given us different gifts for doing certain things well. So if God has given you the ability to prophesy, speak out with as much faith as God has given you. If your gift is serving others, serve them well. If you are a teacher, teach well. If your gift is to encourage others, be encouraging. If it is giving, give generously. If God has given you leadership ability, take the responsibility seriously. And if you have a gift for showing kindness to others, do it gladly.
In reading this article, I thought about my own weaknesses, both physically and emotionally. Hubby and I could definitely use our childlessness for something good; to benefit others and glorify God. So, we have *attempted* to embark on the fostering and foster to adopt road.
I say *attempt* to start this path, because we’re waiting on DFCS to give us more information. In the state of Georgia fostering & adopting processes run through the Division of Family and Child Services (DFCS). They have been rough in our part of Georgia! To begin with, you have to have an inquiry class. Once you’ve contacted a DFCS worker in your region, they’ll register you for this class, then you’ll receive a schedule of more classes called IMPACT (Initial Interest, Mutual Selection, Pre-Service Training, Assessment, Continuing Development and Teamwork).
We even have friends in CASA who have tried to help move things along. Total in the past 2 months we’ve spoken to 4 people who have not been able to provide an answer. Hubby and I can’t even find the proper page online to sign up for the webinar inquiry class much less get the right date and time that it begins! We’ve tried 2x to do it, and both times we’ve had to call someone who would tell us we either had the wrong time or wrong location.
All this to say, I understand God’s timing is way better than our own, but darn-tootin’ if this ain’t ridiculous and hard to swallow! Here we are, trying to use this “gift” and it feels like we can’t even really start this path. Perhaps, just maybe…
Maybe hubby and I are not waiting on God’s timing.
Maybe God is waiting on us.